Showing posts with label fatherless. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fatherless. Show all posts

Friday, December 21, 2012

Five Minutes of Bedlam and a Not-So-Ordinary Joe

Dysfunction for Dollars


It's a sad story that you hear all too often nowadays.  You can see it practically every day on one of the so-called talk shows.  Girl gets pregnant; current boyfriend is not the father; bedlam ensues.

I admit that I stopped for about five minutes on one of these shows this week.  If you've ever spent even five minutes watching one of these ridiculous displays, you know the script.  Introduce girl with totally dysfunctional life; introduce guy who makes her dysfunction look practically Cleaver-ish; introduce his new "love interest"; and let the shouting, name calling, and security enforcement begin as they strain to claw one another's eyes out before the next commercial break. The lure of the DNA test results that are "coming right up" is supposed to keep the audience engaged in the madness.

Lost sometimes in all the mayhem of these shows are the children and what their lives are and will be like.  One episode usually mentions multiple babies born to multiple women, fathered by who knows who...but for the demented pleasure of the viewers, they show all the backlash.  Now, I'm sure these shows are quite staged, but I have talked to enough social workers and police officers to know that they are not too far off from heartbreaking reality for way too many children.

Stop for a moment and imagine what type of lives the babies in these nightmarish situations endure.  No one is looking after their best interests...at least for far too long.  Imagine toddlers, little children, even teenagers growing up without even the slightest notion of normal.

A Stark Difference


A few weeks ago, I was reading a book about orphan care, about the failure of an entire nation to adequately care for the needs of the fatherless.  That's why Joe's story stood out so starkly.  The story started the same as on many of the "tabloid for TV" shows: teenage girlfriend pregnant, not his baby, emotions running wild.  He was prepared to walk away from her and the baby that was not his, and he would have had every right to do so.

Unlike most of the others, though, Joe decided to stick around.  He stuck with his girl through her pregnancy and eventually married her.  After enduring a trying delivery, she had a healthy baby.  Though the book doesn't say much about the rest of Joe's story, it insinuates that he was devoted to his now-wife and that he adopted the little boy and fathered him as his own. 

Well done, Joe.  Well done. 

Joe's son went on to great power and fame while Joe faded into the background, a quiet and often-forgotten figure but heroic in his own way.

Remembering Joe at Christmas


There's a line in the familiar Christmas song "Mary, Did You Know" that asks the musical question: "Mary, did you know that . . . this child that you've delivered, will soon deliver you?"  I wonder if Joseph ever pondered -- whether musically or not -- "Joseph, did you know that this child that you've adopted, will soon adopt you?"

This Christmas, as your family hopefully tells the Christmas story, consider Joseph as more than an outlying character.  His adoption of Jesus was more central to the story of redemption than most of us have ever thought. Joseph is not the fiance to be pitied or to be cast aside as a minor character in the story of Christmas; instead, he is the representation of God Himself, the God who offers salvation and adoption as sons to those of us who trust in the Son whom Joseph adopted.

I'll see you all back on the blog after Christmas.  Merry Christmas, everyone.

Thanks for reading.

4theVoiceless,
Al

To read more about Joseph's adoption of Jesus, check these blogs out:

Jason Kovacs on Love Large, the Abba Fund blog.
Paul Cooper on The Coop Report blog.

Both of these blogs mention Dr. Russell Moore's excellent book, Adopted for Life.  If you have never read it, you should.  You will gain more insight into God's adoption of us and how that is reflected through physical adoption than you could ever imagine.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Adoption Stories: Growing Paynes

We continue today to share snippets of adoption stories from 4theVoiceless's forthcoming adoption cookbook.  (We hope to have a name for said cookbook by sometime today.)  Today, I want to introduce you to Joe and Annette Payne's story of adopting their little girl, Hayley, from China.

Anyone who has been through the adoption process, whether domestic or international, knows that the waiting and the unknown are the hardest parts of the process.  Yes, the paperwork is daunting, but at least you are DOING something. As I read Joe and Annette's story, I couldn't help but notice many very familiar phrases that I have heard from other families at similar stages of the process.

Life on Hold


"We knew something was missing."

 

"I was totally shocked."

 

"...I wasn't fully on board yet..."

 

"At the time it all seemed endless."

 

"...we did not have the resources on hand..."

 

"...still no word from our adoption agency."

"We were growing a bit impatient."

 

"We began to question..."

 

"Out of frustration we even made statements..."

 

"...we had to know something."


And then...
Annette, Joe, & Hayley Payne

"A special needs child?"

 

"There was no way imaginable that WE could care for a special needs child."



The Rest of the Story


The rest of the Paynes' story will be available in the adoption cookbook.  For now, I'll leave you with one more significant phrase from their story:

"...God intervened..."


 For the rest of Joe and Annette's story, along with all the others, we hope you will invest in our cookbook for the sake of others following in their footsteps and walking through that long process and great expense of adoption.  Oh, and there are some pretty good recipes in the cookbook, too!  Personally, I'm looking forward to making the Haitian gratinee. 

We are working feverishly to make the cookbook available by the end of next week. Pre-orders will be taken locally at the 4theVoiceless table at the SHE ministry crafts fair at the CHC Southaven Go Center this Saturday from 9:00-5:00.  As soon as we have a production date, we will let the rest of you know how to order.

Thanks for reading and making a difference for the fatherless.

4theVoiceless,
Al