Interviews with Ashton: Graduation & "I'm Going to Be a Millionaire"

This is the 3rd in a series of posts about by daughter's recent mission trip to Russia to serve orphans there alongside Russian college students.  Allies in Youth Development is the ministry through which they served.  AiYD's place in the orphan care world is to provide transitional assistance to orphans through a big brother/big sister type of mentorship.  American partners not only provide basic items for children in a growing number of Russian orphanages and transitional homes, but they also send teams that provide physical support two-three times per year.

Previous Posts:

"To Russian With . . . Hesitation?"

"Interviews With Ashton: Russia Meets Father of the Bride"

The Numbers Reveal the Need

According the the AiYD site, the statistics reveal a tremendous need for children in orphanages and transitional homes to have positive connections established before aging out of the system.  (Aging out simply means that the orphans have reached an age when they will no longer be cared for by the system that has provided for their physical needs, as well as their education.)

Of the 15,000+ orphans aging out of the 2176+ state run institutions each year...

10% commit suicide
20% are expected to be incarcerated
33% are unemployed
40% have been involved in crime
40% are involved with drugs
40% are homeless

Does Mentorship Work?

Ashton's graduation party: Gift from us: a Russian language program!

My question to Ashton was this: Did you see evidence that the partnership with Russian college students, AiYD, and orphans is working?  Not cold, hard statistics but what she actually saw.  Her answer was an emphatic "Yes!"

Her team was privileged to be a part of a graduation ceremony at one of the orphanages.  From this particular orphanage, of the 18-20 that were aging out, almost two-thirds of them intended to go to college to study to be social workers.  On the day before her own graduation celebration, she described with great joy what she experienced at the Russian graduation.

About a year prior to this particular graduation, a conference was held with the soon-to-be graduates.  These young people, most of whom had been in the system since about sixth grade, each discussed there future plans.  One young man, who later had much to say during an emotional graduation ceremony, stated emphatically, "I'm going to be a millionaire!"  Those who knew him said they did not doubt that he would reach his goal.  (Note: Ashton did not know whether this young man's dream of being a millionaire was in dollars or rubles; with an exchange rate of about 30/1, a little more that $33,000 would make him a millionaire . . . in rubles.  We think he aspires much higher than that!)

During the graduation ceremony, each of the graduates had several bouquets of flowers that they presented to teachers and caregivers who had meant much to them.  What a fascinating idea!

Ashton said the ceremony was neat to watch, but she was surprised at the emotion of the event.  "It was interesting because every single one of the guys was in tears.  One of them -- all he could say was 'thank you.'  They were all bawling.  Absolutely none of the girls were crying, not one of them broke.  Here it's normally the opposite."

The Difference

To Ashton, graduation wasn't a big, emotional event.  Having homeschooled through all of her studies, she neither had nor wanted a formal ceremony.  As per her wishes, we had a simple come-and-go celebration.  She will not "age out" of our home, and even after she leaves, she will have a family to spend Sunday lunches with and a place to celebrate holidays.  A place called home.

Perhaps that is why she witnessed so much emotion -- at least from the boys -- during the Russian graduation ceremony.  While her own graduation was a significant step into adulthood, the transition will be much slower than if she were aging out of our home, never to be allowed to return, even for holidays.  Can you imagine your high school graduation doubling as your invitation to leave home and not come back?

That's why Allies in Youth Development exists, to smooth this transition and to give orphans connections and hope beyond aging out.  I'm so glad Ashton has begun to invest her time and relational gifts in these students.  Have I mentioned how proud of her I am?

Photos of Ashton and the team with some of the older students at one of the orphanages:

Thanks for reading.  More from my interview with Ashton later this week.

4theVoiceless,
Al