Showing posts with label foster care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label foster care. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

We Interrupt the Regular Blogging Schedule for This Update

In the Process


I have shared several "in the process" foster care and adoption stories with you over the last few weeks:

"Kidney Stones and Heartache: One Family's Foster Care Journey"

"Coach Hammond: Man of Many Hats (and One Very Special One)"

"Coach Hammond: A.K.A. Levi's Dad"  (Updated 5/29/12!)

I want my readers to understand that the process for families going through adoption or foster care is arduous and oftentimes heart-wrenching.  But today, I want to share with you one of the sweetest moments in the adoption process that one of our church family members experienced yesterday.

It's Her!!!


I couldn't wait until Friday, my next regularly scheduled blogging day to give you a quick update on Michael and April Satcher's adoption of little Primrose  (Michael first shared his heart for adopting a then-unknown-to-him Chinese girl in June of 2012 on the 4theVoiceless blog.):

Yesterday was the day that makes adoptive parents' hearts leap: The Satchers received photos of their little girl!  Read more about it and see other photos -- as well as the in-between parts of the Satchers' adoption journey -- on The Satcher Family blog.

Now, back to your regularly scheduled day . . .

Thanks for reading.

4theVoiceless,
Al

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

5 Nuggets and 5 Questions from Summit 9


My wife, Loretta, and I traveled to beautiful Nashville, Tennessee, last week to take part in Summit 9, the annual global orphan conference put together by the Christian Alliance for Orphans.  In nine years Summit has grown from just over 30 people to this year's over 2,500 (with registration closing early due to space limitations).  At least 25 countries were represented as well as 49 states (Come on, Vermont!).  The energy, focus, and passion of this year's gathering was most inspiring and contagious, most challenging.

I will not try to summarize everything that we experienced, though much of what I learned and was challenged with will find its way through the blog in days to come.  For today, I have pulled five nuggets from my notes, each with a question to challenge you to action on behalf of the millions of at-risk children in the world.  As you consider each question, though, don't think in terms of millions; think in terms of individual orphans that you may or may not yet know.  Kids who are waiting for you to act on their behalf.

Nugget #1


Stephen Ucembe, a Kenyan pastor who was orphaned in a tragic way at age five, shared that he hated the term "I love you" because he never heard it as a child.  He recalled that when visitors came, they always picked the cutest kids to hold and to play with; he was never chosen.  His most beautiful memory of childhood was receiving a Christmas package from a lady in her 70's, a lady he had never met, from England.  In that package was a four-page letter in which she wrote, "I love you."

Many of you already sponsor at-risk children around the world.  We might think that our $25, $30, $35, $40 per month sponsorship is bringing great blessing to those children (and it is!), but would you go a step further and also write a letter to your child in which you tell him/her "I love you"?

Nugget #2


U.S. Representative Michele Bachmann from Minnesota, a leading Congressional advocate for orphan care, was introduced to foster care through a friend at church.  In the years that followed, the Bachmanns brought 23 foster kids into their home, and each one graduated high school (If you have ever looked at the statistics, you know that this is an amazing feat!).  She recalled how therapeutic it was for the older children to engage with the younger children and for the younger children to engage with the older.


How will you intentionally train your children of whatever age to wisely engage with at-risk children? 

Nugget #3


Jedd Medefind, president of Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO), announced to the crowd in the sanctuary of conference host Brentwood Baptist Church and to those in the overflow room that Summit has always been held in a local church because local churches were the answer to the world's orphan crisis.  I'm not sure any more profound words were shared in the entire conference.

Simply, what are you doing in your local church to carry out God's command to His people to care for orphans?  If you are a part of our faith family at Colonial Hills Church and you don't know what this looks like for you, I would love to sit down and have a conversation with you about how much there is to do and how you can get involved.

Nugget #4


Bishop W.C. Martin of Possum Trot, Texas, absolutely captivated the crowd with his larger-than-life personality and the story of how his church, Bennett's Chapel in the tiny little town of Possum Trot, has adopted over 70 children from foster care.  They have not provided out of their excess but out of a compelling desire to follow God's command to care for the orphan.  Their story has put Possum Trot, Texas, on the map.  (Just in case you were wondering, Bishop Martin reports that Possum Trot is "on the other side on Coonville.")

Will you consider the needs of children at risk from God's perspective and the child's perspective before your own perspective and see how God compels you to act out in faith?

Nugget #5

"Adoption begins with a parent's initiative, not with a child's choice."
"An orphaned child (who was ultimately adopted into a family) has no idea of the pursuit that had taken place on his behalf."
"The gospel does not begin with our pursuit of Christ but with His pursuit of us."
-- David Platt

If you have been involved in any aspect of caring for orphans -- adoption, helping others adopt, fostering, local and global orphan homes, whatever your involvement may have been -- how will you use your experience and your stories to share the gospel?

Thanks for reading.  Now take action.  I would love to hear your responses to the challenges I have set before you today.

4theVoiceless,
Al

Thursday, May 2, 2013

God Stories: 4theVoiceless at One Year

I can hardly believe it, but this month the 4theVoiceless blog hits the one-year mark.  In a year, I have gone from writing once a week to twice a week and occasionally a little more.  I have written about adoption, foster care, children's homes in the U.S. and other countries, the value of the family, and many other topics -- almost a hundred posts in all.  I have had the privilege of hearing some pretty amazing God stories and passing them on to you.  The challenge to begin writing was daunting, but there are so many stories to tell and so many who need to be awakened to this world's orphan crisis.

A few of you have been with the blog from the beginning, and others have just begun to read this week.  I am grateful for you all.  Last month, we had over 1,100 page views, a new record that may be broken this month, if the start of the month is any indication.  We have also gone over 8,600 page views in a little less than a year.  Awareness continues to be one of the major challenges of the call to care for the voiceless, so thank you for your continued readership. 

Take a look back at the most popular posts month-by-month over the last year, according to you, the readers.  If you have recently found the 4theVoiceless blog, I invite you to read through posts that seem to define the last year on the blog and for the ministry.  If you have been around for a while, I invite you to click on the links and reminisce as I did while preparing this compilation.


May 2012:  "My Taco Bell Moment"

 

June 2012: "So Check My Man Card Already"


July 2012: "Our Missions Pastor Is an Enzyme (Now I Am, Too)"


August 2012: "Hope for Haiti: You Move, God Moves" 

 



September 2012: "My Lowest Point As a Pastor"


October 2012: "Do You Have a Personal Mission Statement?"

 

November 2012: "Haiti Mission Trip, Day 3: Build Us Back With Precious Stones"


December 2012: "4theVoiceless Photos: Top 12 in 12 (#1-4)"

 

January 2013: "And Suddenly . . . Orphan Run MS"


February 2013: "Stuck on a Cruise Ship: First and Third World Problems"


March 2013: "Ain't Nobody Got Time for That"


April 2013: "Coach Hammond: Man of Many Hats (and One Very Special One"

"Speak up for those who have no voice, for the justice of those who have been dispossessed."  (Proverbs 31:8, HCSB)

Thanks for reading.

4theVoiceless,
Al





Thursday, April 25, 2013

Kidney Stones and Heartache: One Family's Foster Care Journey

One of the delights of my role as a pastor orphan care champion is to walk families through the process of deciding to adopt or foster a child.  I don't do much of the work, actually; I just point them in the right direction.  However, one thing that I have learned and that I have made sure to pass along to those going through the process is this: The process is not final until the judge (or whoever makes the ultimate decision) declares it final.  This has been wisdom learned and passed on to others who have needed to be prepared for it.

An Unexpected Move of God


When we kicked off the 4theVoiceless ministry at Colonial Hills Church in February of 2012, one of our small groups came to hear Rick Morton speak about the need for churches to get involved in orphan care ministry.  One couple in that group, Dolph and Kimberly Crafton, came simply because their small group leader asked them to come. 

What happened next was the start of a truly amazing and as-yet-unfinished journey.  God began to tug at their hearts to get involved in foster care.  They drove back and forth to Corinth (an hour-and-a-half drive each way) to receive the training they would need.  (Side note: A long car ride back and forth to foster care training gives a couple plenty of time to discuss and process . . . .)  They filled out all of the required paperwork, underwent the necessary background checks, built a community of support, and were ready to welcome a child into their home.  Their new home, one that they would move into in a matter of weeks.

That's when their story took a detour.  Well, several detours, actually.  I want you to hear the story as Kimberly told it to me in an email a couple of weeks ago.  It's a story in process.  It's a story without a pretty bow tied on top (at least not yet).  It's a story of God working in the meantime

It begins with Kimberly in the hospital with a PING PONG-SIZED kidney stone.  Here's how she describes the day she got the call from their social worker:

"One of the Worst Days of My Life"


The day we got the call about not being approved was one of the worst days of my life. I was in the hospital at Baptist East last August. Dolph had just gotten there to eat dinner with me - one of the few nights I had been hungry and wanted to eat. The day had been terrible -- nothing but bad news after bad news after bad news about my health and the prognosis for what the "doctor's thought" would happen (thank GOD it was not what HE wanted to happen). 

They actually told me that I was probably going to lose my kidneys and be on dialysis for the rest of my life or have to have a transplant. Plus, we got news that said that we might not get the house we are now in... needless to say, that day so far had been terrible. Dolph walked in with food, and five minutes later they came and took me to dialysis -- I wasn't even supposed to go until the next morning. That meant that for the next 6 hours I would be stuck in a freezing room being made to feel miserable and completely drained. 

Then halfway through the dialysis, my cell phone rang. I saw that it was our social worker. For a moment, hope cursed through me, and I wanted her to tell me that we had been approved. But that was not God's plan either. God knew that I needed to rest and get well. He knew what His plan was for me; I didn't. She told me that we had not been approved because of something completely silly in Dolph's past where he actually kept someone from kidnapping his daughter - but he was physically violent toward the person, so that meant they had to say no. I was crushed. I began crying uncontrollably.
 
My blood pressure jumped up to stroke level. I had nurses pulling and pushing at me all of a sudden. Finally, one nurse realized that I had gotten bad news on the phone. She made the others step away. She asked me what had happened and patiently waited for me to cry  my way through the entire ordeal. When I finished, she looked at me and smiled. She had been a child in the foster care system from the time she was 2 until she was 18. She was one of the lucky ones that got great foster parents and was able to stay with them until she aged out. Even after that, they treated her like family. We talked for 3 hours about the system and what it meant to be a foster parent. She was a Christ-follower and was able to walk me through the hurt and pain and show me that God had a plan for me. I will never forget her; her name was Adeille. She was an angel sent from God.
 
The last thing she said before they took me back to the room was, "Pray every day that God will heal you, and He will. Pray every day that He gives you your house, and He will. But most of all, pray that he will open hearts and lead the way for you to be great foster parents just like I had growing up. I feel it in my heart that is what He wants for you both. I can see it when I close my eyes, but you have to remember it is all in His time." 
 
I never saw her again after that day. I asked about her several times, and she was always on another shift or off that day. I wrote her a letter the other day and let her know that two out of three prayers had been granted by our wonderful Lord. And that now it was time to start on the last part. I'm well now - no more ping pong-sized kidney stone. Both kidneys are working perfectly; there's still some infection in there, but that is "to be expected" from passing the last of the stone and should be gone in 10 days.
 
I've been praying every day that when we go back to the state of Mississippi that they open their hearts and realize what a mistake was made. It's going to mean a trip to Texas for us to get the "proof" that they need to approve everything, but it's a trip we are willing to make. If you all will please start praying that the state of Mississippi reconsiders their ruling and allows us to follow the path that God has put before us, I would be extremely grateful. I have the feeling that this is going to take A LOT of PRAYER!!!!! But I know that nothing is out of God's reach or isn't within His ability.
 
Thanks,
Kimberly
 
Dolph and Kimberly Crafton with their handsome grandson Dexter
I will add nothing more to this wonderful yet still-in-the-process work of God other than to ask you to pause right now and pray for God's will to be done in the Craftons' lives, on earth as it is in heaven.

Thanks for reading.

4theVoiceless,
Al